Empowerment Through Sex Not A-Dick-Tion

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* Inspired by hearing the complaint from a few men that "they are so great in bed but find it frustrating when women want exclusivity (due to great sex) but they want to remain free & promiscuous." *

I have had experience with a phenomenal lover who was very open in his affairs, and something I learnt through that experience was this:

If you are a man that is offering women true value in the bedroom you must also endeavour to empower her in the process.

If you are offering a woman sexual experiences of substance but failing to empower her she might become clingy and seek exclusivity when that is not something you are offering.

She might become dick dependent which even if you get off on that, it will inevitably wreak havoc on both your lives.

If a part of you gets off on the power dynamic that YOU are the one providing her with this orgasmic experience then don’t turn around and complain if she starts hassling you for a commitment you never wanted to offer.

If you want her to get addicted to the dick drug of her dreams & place yourself on a pedestal do not be surprised if she turns psycho on your ass. (Godly cock is not a recommended method for manipulation either, far too dangerous.)

To retain your freedom you need to reinforce the fact that she is experiencing the bliss that is already within her.

That you are merely the mirror through which she is seeing her own potential through.

That you are honoured to be the one that she is exploring her juiciness all over.

What a gift it is to bear witness to her in rapture of her own orgasmicness that has come to claim her, inspired by your embodied presence, the electricity in your dick, your loving heart, your patient breath.

- This does NOT diminish your role, in fact it levels up your status and the value you are offering & receiving enormously.

If she becomes deluded to think you are the key to her sexual energy she will become codependent and kill your freedom loving boner.

It is up to you to articulate this, and you can weave it into your lovemaking as conscious dirty talk.

Let her hear your deep sex filled voice as you tell her how much you love her discovering the depths of her eroticism all over you and on you.

If you empower her as well as pleasure her she will open to herself and to you in ways so beautiful you will be forever moved.

Making love to a woman with her heart wide open, basking in her own beauty, being ravished by her unfathomable orgasmicness and the healing power of empowerment will be nothing like you’ve ever experienced.

The world will be a better place for it.

and she will no doubt be deeply grateful and respectful of your wishes.

Because she doesn’t need you.
Your connection with her is far greater than need.

She adores the way you love her and is full in and of herself.
If she desires a full time partner she knows to look elsewhere, you've stated that clearly from the beginning.

If you can reunite a woman with herself, reacquaint her with her power and sexual energy, she will ooze all over you in thanks and adorn your life with the love that overflows from her fullness.

Empowering her doesn't devalue your power, it increases it and delivers you the freedom you desire.

*Side note: There are plenty of women that know the infinite well of divine sexual energy within them and know their power source is found internally, not externally in another BUT many do not, or they forget and it does not hurt to remind them .. Also a powerful thing to remind the men in your life, but the complaints I was receiving were from men so I have addressed it this way.*

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